Supporting a loved one through their battle with breast cancer can feel overwhelming. You may wonder how to be there for someone fighting breast cancer and make a real difference in their journey. The truth is that even small actions can provide significant comfort during this challenging time. Below, we’ve outlined 10 actionable steps you can take to offer meaningful support to your loved one.

1. Listen First, Offer Help Later

When someone is diagnosed with breast cancer, they may feel bombarded by advice and opinions. Instead of adding to that, simply listening can be incredibly powerful. Let them share their thoughts, fears, and feelings without judgment or interruption. Sometimes, people just need someone who will listen without trying to “fix” anything.

Tip: Offer a statement like, “I’m here for you, however you need,” instead of immediately jumping into solutions.

2. Offer Specific, Concrete Help

When someone is going through a tough time, it can be hard for them to know exactly what they need or to ask for help. Rather than saying, “Let me know if you need anything,” offer something concrete. The less they have to think about organizing help, the better. Whether it’s cooking a meal, helping with errands, or sitting with them during treatments, being specific makes it easier for them to accept your support.

Some examples of what you can say:

• “I’m heading to the grocery store. Can I grab anything for you?”
• "I know appointments can be exhausting. Can I pick up your kids from school or take them to their activities?"
• "I’m free this weekend—can I come over and help with any housework or errands?"
• "I’m going to the pharmacy later. Do you need me to pick up any prescriptions or essentials?"

These specific offers make it easier for them to accept help without feeling uncomfortable or burdensome.
 

3. Be There for Treatments and Appointments

Even though you may feel uncomfortable, accompanying them to treatments can make a big difference. Treatment days are long, and having a loved one by their side can provide emotional support and even distraction. Bring along something fun to do, like a game, or just be there to chat. 

Tip: Offer to drive them to appointments or sit with them during chemo or radiation sessions. Your presence can be comforting even if they want quiet time.
 

4. Help With Research, If They Want  

Some people prefer to research their condition, while others prefer to avoid it. Respect their wishes. If they ask for help, guide them to credible sources like the American Cancer Fund to ensure they’re receiving accurate and reliable information.

What to avoid: Avoid sending them unsolicited research or treatment options unless they specifically ask for it. This can be overwhelming.
 

5. Encourage Self-Care and Rest

Cancer treatment is exhausting, both physically and emotionally. Your loved one may feel pressure to keep up with everyday life, but it’s essential they rest. Offer to help lighten their load by handling small tasks around the house or taking care of things like grocery shopping.

How you can help: Create a relaxing self-care packaget promote self-care, such as a gentle massage, aromatherapy, or mindfulness apps.
 

6. Respect Their Journey and Choices

Every person’s cancer journey is unique, and it’s important to respect their decisions. Whether they want to keep their diagnosis private or choose alternative treatments, your role is to offer support without judgment. Stand by their choices and be mindful of their boundaries.

Tip: Ask them how much they want to share about their diagnosis and who they want to involve. This lets them stay in control of their journey.
 

7. Help Organize Support From Others

If you’re close to the person, consider organizing a support network of friends and family. This can help spread out the responsibilities of providing meals, transportation, or childcare, making it easier for everyone.

Helpful tool: Use a service like Meal Train or a shared Google calendar to coordinate who’s helping with what, ensuring no one gets overwhelmed.
 

8. Stay Positive, But Keep It Real

While it’s important to remain hopeful, it’s equally vital to avoid dismissing their emotions with statements like “Everything will be fine” or “Just stay positive.” Instead, acknowledge their feelings, and offer more balanced encouragement like, “This is tough, but you’re not going through it alone.”

What to say: “I’m here for you, no matter what. You don’t have to go through this by yourself.”
 

9. Celebrate the Little Wins 

Even during difficult times, small victories can be celebrated. Whether you’re finishing a round of treatment or having a good day, acknowledge these moments. A simple note, a bouquet of flowers, or just a “thinking of you” text can go a long way.

Why it matters: Celebrating progress helps uplift spirits and reminds your loved one that they’re not alone in their fight.
 

10. Be There for the Long Haul

Cancer is not a sprint; it’s a marathon. Even after treatment ends, your loved one may still need support for weeks, months, or even years. Continue checking in and offering help long after the initial diagnosis.

How to maintain support: Text every couple of weeks, offer a regular coffee meetup, or continue offering to help with errands. Your ongoing presence will mean more than you realize.
 

Your Support Matters

Supporting someone with breast cancer is about being there in meaningful, thoughtful ways. By offering specific help, listening without judgment, and showing up consistently, you’re providing more support than you may realize. For additional resources and guidance, visit the American Cancer Fund, where you can find more information on supporting loved ones through this journey.